Communication - Part 3

Contact with oneself - philosophy or need?: Most people known to me claim accordingly that we all live in the same world. Argumentation is based on so-called sensuous perception as a tool for objective evaluation of reality. But by observing a variety of human reactions using the same situational factors we slowly start to understand that our so-called objective world is only the framework in a structure of reality which we've co-created together (knowingly or not) as well as representing a base for building a subjective reality. Most problems in communication have arisen, in my belief, from a projection of subjective vision onto " surroundings" and from a lack of comprehension, that formalized our image of " real world" is not and will never be the same for others. Based on this ideology, extreme cases have lead to conflicts on many levels of life.

This is accompanied by rare devastation and death and the escalation of animosity between rival nations or religious formations (even for example, distress ion in consequences, an incident linked to the publication of the prophet Mahomet caricatures). The last few years have brought considerable knowledge to a domain of psychology and medicine concerning the problems of communications in the context of individual ( psychosomatic illness) and also with solutions aimed at decreasing negative influence on humans. Workshops of assertiveness and interpersonal communication constitute a subject of interest with today's people. First of all, these shops, through their actions, allow people to experience general contact and interactions. I think there is a necessity to create and sustain these types of meetings, if we're interested in our psychosomatic health and not just our career.

But it doesn't eliminate knowledge of something uncommon for any venture, the ability to live in harmony and calm. My interlocutors especially the younger part of human society are looking at me at this moment with a smile. We act fantastic on " high adrenaline" affirmed in particular, by unusually creative persons in which communication barriers don't usually exist.

From their own perspectives, they are consistently right, until ( and we rarely observe as physicians in people from 35-45 years old), they are not able to mobilize, despite a frank willingness, to go out anywhere from home. More and more people in " white gowns and stethoscope in ears" recognize symptoms of burnout.But wait a moment, asked my interlocutors What correlation does this have with communication? I think that the preoccupation of everyday life, repeatedly forced to work longer hours, we've forgotten a most essential fact of life, communicating with oneself. But what is this contact? Observing the world of human behavior, its not difficult to notice that habitual suppressing of emotions became a reality of life for many people. Conventions, ideas, a daily grind such as claiming conversational partners, enforce "specific way of functioning", until a mask, which seemed like a wonderful invention, started to pinch. Each human being has mounted in oneself, a balancing system who's educational tools consist of feelings. If we suppress them we deprive ourselves contact with " internal signals" which re-act to external factors. (I think about an opulence of emotions accompanied by our activities). Self observation and decisions, taking into account our feelings, are necessary elements of a person's life, if they want to keep psychosomatic balance and needful indications for all creators of fulfilling life experiences.

Best regards
Teresa Maria Zalewska